Hi, and welcome to your 7-Day Emotional Mastery for Authors course!
My name is Nikki Lee Taylor and I am so happy you're here, because believe me when I say - I get it!
You love writing and long to have your book published, read, and loved by millions, right?
With so many great authors out in the world it can be tough believing you have what it takes, to accept the idea that some day your work could be up on the shelf beside the authors we love and admire.
It can be so daunting in fact, that sometimes we stall, we make excuses not to start, or start only to become crippled by impostor syndrome, and the fear of what our friends and family might think. We tell ourselves no one would want to publish our book, or read it for that matter...
And then we stop writing...
Am I right?
Making it as an author will be tough, there's no way around that, but the thing is, if you don't believe in yourself then it's pretty much guaranteed your dreams will never come true - and we don't want that, right?
Right now there’s probably a part of you buzzing with a warm rush of hope, excitement, and optimism. You’re daring to imagine you might be about to embark on a journey that will help you find the self-confidence you have been lacking as a writer.
But there’s probably also a part of you that feels a little skeptical...
Maybe you’re thinking something like, ‘Is this really going to give me the confidence to get my book done?’ Or asking questions like, ‘How can this work, like really work, when I don't believe in myself?’
Look, it’s natural to be skeptical. Changing your mindset can be a challenge, and there's plenty of experts out there willing to take your money, and give back only empty promises...
I am not a qualified psychiatrist, psychologist, or counselor, but I am living proof the lessons you are about to learn really do work – if you commit to them.
It’s kinda like someone giving you the best diet plan ever created along with the perfect groceries delivered to your door every single day, but if you don’t put in the effort to make the food and stop over-eating – you won’t see results.
You have to want it for yourself. Do you know what I mean?
We have only just met you and I, but I will make you this promise:
I will always be honest with you and the truth is - changing the way you think about yourself and finding the confidence to chase your dreams, I mean really going all in and chasing them, takes commitment.
I will always be honest with you, and the truth is - changing the way you think about yourself and finding the confidence to chase your dreams, and I mean really going all in and chasing them, takes commitment...
There will be parts of this course that will challenge you. There are parts that will have you asking - ‘How bad do I really want this?'
But I know you want it bad, right? You want to see your book out there in all it's printed glory.
And if you're struggling right now with self-confidence or having trouble believing you have what it takes to become a successful author, there's a reason for that - and it's not your fault.
Maybe you've made bad choices in the past that shattered your self-confidence
Maybe you've been stuck in a job you don't love for so long it's hard to believe you could ever break away
Maybe other people have got you believing you'll never succeed
Maybe you've been told you can never make a living from writing
Whatever the reason, whatever is holding you back - it only has the power to do so if you buy into it.
Trust me, I know...
When I was in my 20s and severely messing up, there came a point when I knew if I didn’t find a way to change my thinking - I would die.
And I mean actually die.
I was living my worst life, making dangerous and stupid choices, and putting myself in harm's way. It was a vicious circle. The more I messed up, the more I believed I was a failure who would never get back on the right path, and so with that belief ruling my life, I just kept going around in circles, falling further and further through the cracks...
When I was inevitably brought into the emergency room by an ambulance, sirens wailing and people scurrying to try and save my life, I knew I had hit rock bottom.
I was lucky that day. They saved me, but I knew I had to find a way to change my behaviour, to overcome my addictions, or risk losing my life. The stakes had never been higher.
So even though I had no idea what to do, I started trying to change - but it was so hard.
Back then there was no internet or people who had successfully changed their lives to access. There were only $200 per hour therapists and none of them had real life experience for what I was going through. I didn’t believe they actually understood what I was feeling or experiencing.
How could they? I mean, sure they had studied and were really smart and super qualified, but how could they really put themselves in my shoes by having sat through classes?
So, instead I fumbled my way through. I used trial and error, succeeding and failing, going back and forth, and taking note of the things that worked best and helped me think differently about myself.
By doing this month after month, I eventually uncovered all the key things that worked for me, I got rid of the things that didn’t, and focused on improving myself every day.
Eventually it worked.
Not only did I manage to save my own life, but something else happened...
As a by-product, I actually made a successful life for myself, and one that looked pretty amazing, especially given where I had come from. I even started writing...
But then something completely unexpected happened...
It all fell apart.
Ten years down the track, despite my shiny new life, I found myself struggling with depression, anxiety, and heading down a precarious path – one that started to look and feel awfully familiar.
And the worse part? I wasn’t 20 anymore. I had a career, a mortgage, a long-term partner, and a list of other responsibilities.
I was terrified of messing everything up again, but I was so miserable.
I had no direction, no purpose, no joy, no sense of self-worth. I felt like a fraud in my own life, like I was still the old undeserving me, just dressed in better outfits.
Put simply - impostor syndrome of the highest level, and not just around writing, but my entire life.
Put simply - impostor syndrome of the highest level, and not just around writing, but my entire life.
In fact, things became so bad that one night at around 2am after a huge fight with my partner, who could not for the life of him figure out why I was so depressed, I decided to take my own life.
After all that effort to change, I still couldn’t successfully live my life with purpose and meaning. I had no confidence, didn't believe in myself, and no matter what anyone said I always felt like I didn't deserve my success because of the past.
I was a failure. Or at least that’s how I felt.
Luckily, he found me before any real damage was done, but the incident shook me to the core.
Where had I gone wrong?
I had been a homeless addict, beaten, and abused. I had said enough was enough, and created what looked like a perfect life, and yet somehow, I still ended up right back in the same situation.
That question circled around and around in my mind until one day it hit me.
I had only created what ‘looked’ like a perfect life, and when I explain to you what I mean by that, many of you will have what they call an ‘ahaaa...’ moment, because I am sure I am not the only one this has happened to.
You see, the big thing I failed to do, the reason I was sinking fast, was because I had failed to fix what was going on inside myself before I built what looked like the perfect life around me.
In writer's terms it's kinda like studying, learning, and reading, everything you can until you're an expert in the art of writing, but all the while telling yourself you're not good enough.
Put simply, no matter how great a writer you might be, your book will never get done or it will sit somewhere in the darkened realms of your C-drive forever, if you lack the confidence to get it out into the world.
Put simply, no matter how great a writer you might be, your book will never get done or it will sit somewhere in the darkened realms of your C-drive forever, if you lack the confidence to get it out into the world...
You get what I mean, right?
So why am I telling you all this?
Back when my world was in disarray, my goal was to live a happy and fulfilled life, with a home, a career, and people who loved me. That might not seem like a given for some people, but based on where I was starting from, that dream was a world away... and forget fulfilling my dreams of being an author - I didn't even have a place to sleep at night!
But the good news is - it doesn't matter what your dream is because the way to get there is the same: Changing the way you think...
In author terms, that means it doesn't matter whether you have the ability to write a Pulitzer Prize winning novel, if you think you can't - you won't.
But there's good news! The solution to removing whatever makes you feel like you're not good enough is the same for everyone.
Now, I know what you’re thinking. How can that be when everyone has different reasons for not believing they have what it takes?
The answer is - because it's the way you think that is holding you back.
But like I said, it's not your fault.
These days there are so many exterior forces that contribute to making us believe we're not good enough or that we'll never be successful.
There are people around us, who I hate to say, don't want us to succeed. They believe if we make our dreams come true they will be left behind or have no choice but to face the fact they haven't seen their own goals through - so they discourage us
There's people who need us to stay right where we are because we're great at what we do now, and they don't want to lose us - so they discourage us
There's mistakes we might have made in the past that have nothing to do with writing, but caused us to fail in some way - and those memories discourage us.
There's things we need to learn, but we're not sure where to get the answers - and that gap in understanding discourages us.
There's so many demands on our time it seems almost impossible to imagine finding time to write - and our fatigue discourages us.
Is it any wonder we feel like we're destined to fail at finishing our book?
So believe me when I say - it’s not your fault if you’re struggling right now, but that’s what we’re going to fix.
I can hear you asking, ‘But how can I change those kinds of problems? They're all things I can't do anything about...’
You’ll be relieved to know that's not true.
Trust me – I’m one of you. I've had all these problems, and more, but I also know exactly what to do and how to do it so you won’t have to fumble through the dark trying to find answers anymore. I'm here to show you the way out...
Trust me – I’m one of you and I’ve already created the formula. I know exactly what to do and how to do it so that you don’t have to fumble through the dark trying to find answers anymore.
What you will learn in this course is a specific blueprint for creating and implementing lasting confidence that will allow you to write your book and proudly put it out into the world and whoever doesn't like it - bad luck!
You've longed to be an author for as long as you can remember, right? That's your dream, and you deserve to see it come true.
But like I said, there will be times when some of the things we do will challenge you and I want you to remember the two things I know will keep you positive and powering through anything that comes your way.
1. No one can stop you, but yourself.
That’s right. This course does not include anything that depends on other people. There are no variables. What you get out of this is entirely up to you, and that’s what’s so great about it. Right here, right now, you can take control of your life. You can re-write your own story, and not just on the page, but in your life. Until now you have been the architect of your own cage, building bars that keep you trapped in self-doubt. But it’s time to plot your own hero's journey.
2. As we work through this course, if each day you commit to implementing just 10% of what you learn, in 7 days your confidence will be 70% higher.
And keep in mind, if you continue to implement 10% each day, in six months your self-confidence will be 1680% higher, then in one year 3640% better. Now, imagine if you implemented 20% each day or 50%. That would mean in one year your self-confidence would be 18,200 times higher than it is right now. Can you even imagine what that would feel like, to wake up every morning believing in yourself 18,200 times more than you do right now? And that's only if you implement half of what your about to learn...
That’s got to be worth it, right?